“Wherever you
are, and whatever you do, be in love”.
Rumi
It’s late in the evening as I am trying to collect my
thoughts and write a column. But my thoughts are somewhere else tonight. I am
thinking about my dear sister. Today is the day that she moved to Oslo to start
a new life together with her boyfriend. It hasn’t been an easy decision, but it
was one that she was looking forward to nonetheless. She just arrived at her
new home a few hours ago, which I have yet to visit. I hope that she will be
happy there. I hope that this new chapter in her life will turn out to be everything
that she imagines it to be. And though we never know what will happen down the
road, one thing I know for sure: if love
is calling, we must answer. Because chasing love is chasing happiness. And
isn’t that the greatest chase of all? The ultimate journey. The power that
moves us all. If we fall in love, whether it’s
with a person, a place, a job or a country, we must move for it. Without
minding risks nor fear too much. Because ignoring that inner pull is no option,
it will only make us feel miserable. The real
change has already taken place inside of us long before we actually take action
to make the visible changes like packing, quitting our job, selling the home
and so on. The real change happened right the moment we fell in love. Which
already is the point of no return right there. Staying and trying to keep
things as they were before out of fear of the unknown is pointless.. everything
has already changed anyway. You are
changed. And everything that was part of your normal life up until the moment
you fell in love is different now. Transformed. Pushing you into a new
direction, taking you on a new adventure.
Moving for love is always right thing to do. Living in Alanya I am reminded of this every day by the people around me. This is what some many of us who live here have done, including myself. And yet, this love may not be forever. It may even end as swiftly and as suddenly as it entered your life. It may last only for a while or for just one year, or for whatever the amount of time it was needed to fulfill its purpose. Maybe it turned out to be only a romance. Maybe you came here to let the sunshine warm up your soul for as long as you needed. Maybe the beaches and the nature gave you the piece you were seeking, so you could to return to your old situation with fresh energy and new insights. Maybe you needed to fill up your heart with fun and laughter and music and food until you felt nourished again in every way. Love is love. And just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. Love isn’t measured by its length but by its capacity to touch you and to change you. Profoundly and undeniably. Moving for love is not irresponsible. It’s not naïve. And it’s certainly not crazy. It’s for the strong and the brave. For those who in all honesty dare to admit that this is what it’s all about. Who understand that this is the stuff that makes the world go round and keeps us moving forward day after day. If love is not worth all of our courage, what is? If it’s not love that we are seeking, then what are we running after? Love moves us as much as we move for love.
Moving for love is always right thing to do. Living in Alanya I am reminded of this every day by the people around me. This is what some many of us who live here have done, including myself. And yet, this love may not be forever. It may even end as swiftly and as suddenly as it entered your life. It may last only for a while or for just one year, or for whatever the amount of time it was needed to fulfill its purpose. Maybe it turned out to be only a romance. Maybe you came here to let the sunshine warm up your soul for as long as you needed. Maybe the beaches and the nature gave you the piece you were seeking, so you could to return to your old situation with fresh energy and new insights. Maybe you needed to fill up your heart with fun and laughter and music and food until you felt nourished again in every way. Love is love. And just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. Love isn’t measured by its length but by its capacity to touch you and to change you. Profoundly and undeniably. Moving for love is not irresponsible. It’s not naïve. And it’s certainly not crazy. It’s for the strong and the brave. For those who in all honesty dare to admit that this is what it’s all about. Who understand that this is the stuff that makes the world go round and keeps us moving forward day after day. If love is not worth all of our courage, what is? If it’s not love that we are seeking, then what are we running after? Love moves us as much as we move for love.
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